Yes, it’s a thing, but you probably won’t find it on google. You can learn about it from MANY southern women who have dated or been married to men who suffer from SRSWBS. What is SRSWBS? It’s the complete inability to have decent sex with their wife or significant other (bring them to orgasm), but they have the ability to have decent sex with a hooker, a one night stand, or another woman with whom they are cheating. It’s usually caused by a traditional upbringing usually involving religion and results in many nights sleeping on the sofa and/or no sex from the spouse or significant other at all. Sometimes it takes literally years (or never) for them to discover that their wife or significant other has faked orgasms for years to make them go away so she can pleasure herself. It’s not happening with him in the room.
Here’s our working theory as to how it happens and how to deal with it. Our being my female friends and I who have been in long term relationships with men suffering from SRSWBS or who have dated a male suffering from SRSWBS.
How it happens. Men learn in church and in traditional upbringings that women are supposed to be innocent and pure etc. Men learn to marry the innocent one after they’ve spent sometimes years in bars and strip clubs with women they’re told not to marry but provide them with sexually satisfying encounters. Then they’re all of a sudden middle aged and single because they can’t reconcile the women they’re attracted to and the women they are supposed to marry. They see their married friends sleeping on the sofa and either cheating or being cheated on.
Here is how to recognize the symptoms: They cheat. They make comments to other men about how “she” is difficult to bring to orgasm. They make comments that “she” doesn’t like sex. They have serious relationships or are married but frequent bars and strip clubs with their male friends. They sleep on the sofa a lot. If they don’t cheat, they often don’t get sex for weeks or months.
Here is how to deal with them: That guy is a fling, a one night stand, or someone you make a fuck buddy. He isn’t somebody you date seriously or marry if you ever expect or want a healthy sex life and an intimate relationship. God help you if you try to have a serious relationship and actually talk about sex. Nice innocent women don’t do that. You’ve just scared him. Yes, I’m talking about the guy who had sex with a stripper before he went out with you. You did scare him. He is scared he might divulge enjoying sex while having the light turned on or something stupid with you because he cares about you and he can’t. Tradition and religion killed his ability to even have that conversation.
Here is what he doesn’t understand: Would any man have sex on a regular basis without having an orgasm? No. Why would a woman? I guarantee you that she can bring herself to orgasm as quickly as you can bring yourself to orgasm. Just maybe not with you in the room. Seriously, this isn’t healthy, but it’s extremely common.
Those married couples you see who don’t cheat and still have sex on a regular basis, they figured out how. They talked about it. Those men don’t sleep on the sofa. Those men and women don’t cheat.
I am aware that there are females who suffer from this same affliction but I don’t date them so I don’t really care.
Middle of the Muddy Road 